Most of us aren’t keen on conflict. True, there are people that relish it, or are energised by it, but most of us don’t seek it out. But for some people, it’s the worst thing ever. They will go to the ends of the earth to avoid conflict. Why is this and what can you do about it?
How can we deal with a fear of rejection so that it doesn’t paralyse us or cause us to make choices that keep us feeling temporarily safe but aren’t in our long-term best interests?
For us givers and caring folk, this seems counter intuitive, if not rather selfish. How can putting yourself first actually improve your relationship?
Sometimes it seems hard to know what we really think and feel. Is this relationship really good for me? Am I hurt by what he said? Do I want to go on another date with her?
What we need to do is tune into our inner voice, that little voice of truth, so that we can be confident in our choices and decisions. Easier said than done, right?
Do you have a hard time standing up for yourself? Do you get pushed into doing what you don’t want to do?
The good news is that if you haven’t learnt how to set boundaries growing up, you can learn, starting right now.
Before you go looking for Mr or Miss Right, you need to look inwards and ask yourself “Would my ideal mate want to be with me?” If the answer is “No”, it’s time to get to work on yourself.
How can meditating be useful in recovering from people-pleasing? In this article I explore some of the reasons I have found it so beneficial and make it a daily priority.
How leaving behind people-pleasing ways can help you have great sex and enjoy your sexuality.
How our abilities show up in people-pleasing mode and when we are being our authentic self
So I stopped fighting the little voice in my head, found myself a fabulous coach and got serious about pursuing my passion. It was time for this bud to blossom.